We Can Tell And We Will!
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About this PSA:
April 6-12, 2014 is National Victims of Crime Awareness Week and the Disabled Women’s Network of Canada (DAWN-RAFH Canada) is launching a campaign featuring a Public Service Announcement based on the D.A.I Supreme Court case that recognizes the right of people with disabilities to be believed when they report sexual assault and abuse.
What constitutes abuse?
The first step is to be able to identify the abuse in our lives. Abuse can be:
If you are hit, kicked, slapped, punched or beaten, you are being physically abused. If a person who is supposed to be providing care for you uses physical force while feeding, dressing or bathing you, you are being abused by your caregiver.
If you are raped or forced to engage in any sexual behaviour that you do not want, even by your partner, boyfriend or husband, you are being sexually abused. You may experience unwanted sexual actions by a caregiver. For example, if your caregiver touches you sexually during your bathing or toilet routine, that is abuse.
If you are denied assistance to use the washroom, get out of bed, have food or be bathed, it is unacceptable, and it is abuse. If someone threatens to take away your assistive device such as a hearing aid, wheelchair or walker, that is abuse.
Verbal Abuse and Threats
If anyone—an attendant, support worker, “friend” or family member—continually tells you that you are incapable of doing anything meaningful with your life because of your disability; that is abusive. If you experience disrespectful treatment from shelter workers, social workers, medical staff or any other person that is being paid to help you, it is abuse.
It is abuse when someone threatens to:
- Physically or sexually harm you
- Leave you without being fed or cared for
- Leave you in wet or soiled clothing or bed sheets for a long period of time
- Leave you on the toilet or in the bath too long
- Leave and take the children
- Put you in an institution
Threats are abuse.
If someone tries to control or use your money against your wishes or without your consent, that is abuse.
Racism, Sexism, Homophobia and Classism as Abuse
Discrimination is even worse when, as women with disabilities and Deaf women, we also belong to another group that faces barriers. When someone says bad things to you or treats you badly because you are young, old, of a minority racial group, or you identify as lesbian, bisexual, trans or queer or because you are poor – that is abuse.
Ableism is a form of abuse and prejudice that happens when people with disabilities are treated as though they are not as good as people without disabilities.
Cyber bullying is when through e-mail, internet chat rooms and electronic gadgets like cellphone cameras, cyber bullies spread hurtful images and/or messages.
Resource list of Crisis Hotlines
Assaulted Women’s Helpline: Provides anonymous and confidential crisis counseling, informational and emotional support to women. (Toronto, ON)
Toll Free: 1-866-863-0511
Toll Free TTY: 1-866-863-7868
Talk for Healing: Talk4Healing is a helpline available to all Aboriginal women living in urban, rural and remote communities, both on and off reserve, throughout Northern Ontario.
Mental Health Crisis Line: A 24/7 helpline to assist people experiencing a mental health problem or crisis. (Ottawa, ON)
Toll Free: 1-866-996-0991
Fem’aide: Provincial helpline for francophone women in Ontario dealing with violence
Battered Women’s Support Services: Provides education, advocacy and support services to assist women. (Vancouver, BC)
Crisis line: 604-687-1867
Toll Free: 1-855-687-1868
Greater Vancouver Crisis Line: Non-profit organizing that provides emotional support to youth, adults and seniors in distress. (Greater Vancouver, BC)
Toll Free: 1-866-661-3311
Domestic Violence Helpline (Victim Link): Helpline designed to provide information and support to those experiencing domestic violence.
Toll Free TTY: 1-800-563-0808
Surrey Women’s Center: Offer a range of crisis services to victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse and other forms of family violence. 24/7 helpline services provided. (Surrey, BC)
WAVAW: Works to end violence against women through various support programs and services including an emotional and informational support 24-hour crisis line.
24-Hour Crisis Line: 604-255-6344
Toll free: 1-877-392-7583
North Shore Crisis Services Society: NSCSS is a transition house and also provides related support services. (North Vancouver, BC)
BC Coalition to Eliminate Abuse of Seniors: Helpline providing emotional and legal information and referral for seniors experiencing abuse. (Vancouver, BC)
Toll free: 1-866-437-1940
TTY Toll free: 1-855-306-1443
Crisis Association of Vegreville: General helpline for those experiencing a problem and require assistance. (Vegreville, Alberta)
Toll Free Helpline: 1-780-632-7070
Family Violence Info Line: 24/7 helpline in over 170 languages to provide support and advice for people experiencing family violence.
Telephone: 780- 310-1818
Edmonton Women’s Shelter Ltd.: A non-profit agency with three shelters for women with or without children leaving domestic violence situations. A 24 hour support and information line is provided. (Edmonton, AB)
St. Paul’s Crisis Center: Non-profit organization that provides safe and supportive environments for women with or without children who are experiencing family violence. 24/7 crisis line available for information and emotional support. (St. Paul, AB)
Toll Free: 1-800-263-3045
Camrose Women’s Shelter Society: Women’s shelter proving safe environments for women and children needing protection from family violence. 24 hour crisis line for additional assistance. (Camrose, AB)
Phone: 780-672-1035 (main line)
Toll Free Crisis Line: 1-877-672-1010
Calgary Women’s Emergency Shelter: Offers support to individuals and families fleeing family violence and abuse. The 24-hour helpline provides support, information and access to programs at the shelter. (Calgary, AB)
Toll Free: 1 (866) 606-7233
Sucker Creek Women’s Emergency Shelter: Provides range of services for women and children experiencing abuse and assault including a 24-hour crisis line.(Edmonton, AB)
Crisis Phone: 780-523-4357
Toll Free: 1-866-523-2929
La Ronge 24-Hour Crisis Line: General crisis line for men and women in crisis in La Ronge, Saskatchewan. (La Ronge, SK)
Crisis Line: 306-425-4090
Moose Jaw Domestic Violence Crisis Line: Moose Jaw offers a transition house for women and children affected by family violence and abuse. The crisis line offers 24-hour emotional, informational and referral support to women. (Moose Jaw, SK)
Prince Albert Domestic Violence Crisis Intervention: General crisis line for those experiencing domestic violence. (Prince Albert, SK)
Crisis Line: 306-764-1011
Yorkton Domestic Violence Crisis Line: General crisis line for those experiencing domestic violence in Yorkton. (Yorkton, SK)
Crisis Line: 1-888-783-3111
(Regina) Crisis/Suicide Line: Provides 24-hour social and health crisis response to community of Regina. (Regina, SK)
Crisis Line: 306-525-5333
Toll-Free Province Wide Domestic Abuse Crisis Line (24 hours): General crisis line for people experiencing domestic violence and abuse in the province of Manitoba.
Toll Free: 1-877-977-0007
Klinic Crisis Line: Offers confidential counseling, support and referral to people in crisis.
Crisis Line: (204) 786-8686
Toll free: 1-888-322-3019
TTY (204) 784-4097
NWT Help Line: General helpline there to provide support to those in crisis.
Nunavut Kamatsiaqtut Help Line: Provides anonymous and confidential counseling for northerners in crisis.
Toll Free: 1-800-265-3333
Domestic Violence Hotline: Provides anonymous and confidential domestic violence services via telephone or email. (Montreal, QC)
Toll free: 1-800-363-9010
Hope Haven Transition House Crisis Line: Provides confidential and safe emergency shelter to women and children who are experiencing violence and abuse. 24-hour crisis line offers information, emergency planning and emotional support. (Labrador City, NL)
Crisis Line: (709) 944-6900
Toll Free: 1-888-332-0000
Helpline: General helpline for people experiencing crisis in Nova Scotia.
Toll Free: 1-877-521-1188
Kaushee’s Place / Yukon Women’s Transition Home: Offers shelter, outreach, support and advocacy for women and their children fleeing abuse.
Crisis Line: 867-668-5733 (collect calls accepted from outside Whitehorse)
Tips on Safety Planning and Steps to follow if in crisis:
Always remember if you are in immediate danger call 911- the police. If you are able to dial the phone but can’t communicate, remember to stay on the line – do not hang up. Give the following information clearly if you are able:
- your name;
- the location you are at;
- that you are being attacked;
- that you are afraid you are going to be hurt or you are afraid for your life; and
- where your attacker is and whether he has a weapon or access to weapons.
If you have time to plan ahead, the following steps can help you get out of an abusive situation.
Make a decision – You have to be willing to make a change in your life to get out of an abusive situation, knowing that you are not alone.
Talk to someone about it – It is very helpful to talk about your situation with someone that you trust – a friend or relative, a spiritual leader, a doctor, or a counsellor.
Protect Yourself – If you decide to stay, you should have an emergency and personal safety plan.
Know what to do in an Emergency – Be prepared to act quickly. Make an emergency plan. Tell someone you trust that you may need to activate your emergency plan. This person can support you with the following actions:
- Plan ahead of time where you can go to be safe, by making just one phone call.
- Work out a code word so that the person you call will know that this is you, if you are in crisis.
- Contact a shelter ahead of time and see if they can accommodate your disability needs.
- Get legal advice – Call a community legal clinic even before there is an emergency.
- Pre-arrange accessible transportation.
- Make photocopies of all your identification and important documents and keep them in a safe place where you can find them quickly.
- Pack an emergency bag, including all these important documents (i.e. Health Cards, birth certificates, marriage certificates, immigration/citizenship papers, passports, copies of your lease, mortgage, your address/phone book, etc.)
Use the Internet Safely
The Internet is a really useful way to get important information, but it can also leave a record of the websites and information that you have been looking for. If your abuser is very knowledgeable about computers, he may be able to see which websites you have looked at. There are things that you can do to delete traces of what websites you have been visiting. But it may just not be safe to use a computer at home. You might want to use the computer at the public library, a school, an internet cafe, or your workplace. Please visit http://ywcasudbury.ca/resources/343-2/ for more information about internet and email safety.
What the D.A.I. case is and why it is important
On February 10, 2012 the Supreme Court of Canada announced a decision in a court case called “D.A.I.”, that recognized the right of people with disabilities to be believed when they report sexual assault and abuse.
D.A.I. involved a young woman with an intellectual disability who reported that her step-father had sexually assaulted her. At the first court case, the judge did not believe that the young woman understood what an “oath” or a “promise” to tell the truth was, so they dropped the case and the stepfather was freed from the charges.
The DisAbled Women’s Network (DAWN) Canada and the Women’s Legal Education & Action Fund (LEAF) got involved stating that this was not fair and that they needed to hear this case again. DAWN and LEAF stated that women with intellectual and other “mental” based disabilities should be able to testify against their abusers, even if they can’t explain what truth or promise means.
The Supreme Court of Canada agreed with DAWN and LEAF and ordered a new trial.
The D.A.I case recognizes that women and men with intellectual and other disabilities should be able to testify if they can describe the abuse that they experienced. Before this decision, women and men with disabilities, especially intellectual disabilities, were not seen as being truthful about their experiences of abuse. This decision was very important because it recognizes that regardless of how a person communicates, they should be able to go to court and report and describe the abuse that they experienced. This case supports our rights as people with disabilities to be believed and to make sure that our abusers are put on trial and if found guilty, punished for their crime.
Video developed by Jaek Eastcott, Ben Roberts and Doris Rajan.
Actors: Alya Kassam, Priyanka Choudhary
Funding for this project was received from the Victims Fund of the Department of Justice Canada.